“Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me.”
Words are powerful.
They have the power to build us up or break us down. And the words we speak to ourselves matter most of all.
Because the words and stories we tell ourselves determine how we see and interpret the world.
Our stories can empower us to reach new heights, or we can let them control us to the point that we don’t even try.
For example, take the guy who asked a girl out in 8th grade and got turned down. His story can be, “That girl doesn’t know what she’s missing.”
“I’m terrible with girls. Why do I even bother?”
Either way, his story becomes true because he believes it.
Your Life is Created by Stories
And stories are created by words.
We have stories about EVERYTHING in our lives.
Have you ever gone on a diet? Most diets have a list of “no-no” foods, right? Usually, these are the foods we want the most.
When we think of that treat, there’s a voice in our head that becomes the mental food police.
“I can’t have that. That food is off-limits.”
That’s a story.
Maybe you got up this morning with every intention of going out to exercise. But the day just got away from you. Now it’s 5 o’clock and you’re thinking “I should work out today.”
That’s a story.
What about a work or social event that you feel obligated to attend, but you don’t really want to go. Have you ever found yourself saying “I don’t want to go, but I have to”?
Also, a story.
The words “I can’t”, “I should”, and “I have to” are incredibly disempowering. They put our power – the very sense of control we crave in our lives – outside of ourselves.
These words tell the “victim” story.
We can be in command of our lives and our choices with our words. Because our words influence our thoughts and our stories.
The stories we tell ourselves become our reality.
Which door will you choose?
The secret to turning around any dis-empowering story is in the words you use to tell yourself your story.
“I get to….”
And yet so powerful.
“I get to….” can change an obligation into a choice. It can change a limit into an opportunity.
It puts you in the driver’s seat of your life.
“I can’t have chocolate” becomes “I get to eat healthy food that makes me feel amazing.”
“I should to go to the gym today” becomes “I get to take care of myself and my body.”
“I have to go to the work luncheon” becomes “I get to meet and network with some new people.”
Be the Hero of Your Own Story
Our lives are built on the stories we tell ourselves. Every story has a main character.
You can choose to be the hero of your life story and not the victim.
That choice begins with 3 small, powerful words.
Try using “I get to…” to change your mindset.
Ultimately, feeling good about yourself is not what’s on the outside. It all starts on the inside with how you think and the words you use.
Lizzie Merritt, M.Ed. uses her experience as a former science teacher and a fitness professional to write about weight loss psychology and positive psychology on her blog. She is the author of the forthcoming book, Love Yourself Naked: 12 Keys to the Art and Science of True Body Love, as well as the book 7 Ways to Willpower (available on Amazon.) You can click here to get your copy of her FREE special report, 23 Simple Weight Loss Hacks.